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Private Messages

Anyone know if there's any way to send another contributor a PM on this forum? I can't see one, but may be being dim.

Who needs a private message?

Who needs a private message? We're all friends here.........

(Pretty sure there is no such facility here. On the "Other Site" however.........)

 

Who needs a private message?

stupid duplication.........

I can think of times when it

I can think of times when it would have been useful.  The Linn Forum has that facility and I was contacted via it by a former member here.  It led to a long-term friendship via email a continent away.  

 

PMs.

As far as I can understand, there is no such facility here, but, as Jane put it "we are all friends here". Despite, on very few occasions (like the one with Vic), of the ad hoc benefits of PMs, they can easily become intrusive...

As I have said, quite a few times on various occasions in this forum, we are here mere "shadows"... Let's stay here as we have always been.

Parla

A way

Warning: This is private

 

good luck

parla wrote:

parla wrote:

 ...but, as Jane put it "we are all friends here". Despite, on very few occasions (like the one with Vic), of the ad hoc benefits of PMs, they can easily become intrusive...

 

What bizarre punctuation!  I think he means two sentences, the second beginning with "Of the ad hoc..."

 

 

How could PMs (Private messages) possibly become intrusive?

 

parla wrote:

 As I have said, quite a few times on various occasions in this forum, we are here mere "shadows"...

 

Mere shadow we can cope with.  It's the total eclipses that depress.

 

parla wrote:

 Let's stay here as we have always been.

 

 

"Always"?   Some of us remember when AD was BC here.   Or is that BP?

 

VicJayL wrote:

VicJayL wrote:

 

How could PMs (Private messages) possibly become intrusive?

 

Exchanging private emails is fine if you agree to do so in a forum beforehand (and it's within that particular forum's rules to give away your email). However I'm not keen on receiving unsolicited personal emails, as as happened to me in some other discussion groups. To me it breaks down the wall between casual acquaintance and friendship. In the same way I'm not keen on Facebook friend requests from people I've met for 10mins in a pub.

 

As to whether you can develop serious friendships with people you meet on forums like this, possibly you can, but often people (including ones who appear to be harmless) are not who they claim to be, which seems to be Parla's point. 

 

Ted

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Intrusive?..

The bizarre punctuation is the extra coma I put after the parenthesis again owing to pressure of time (it reads: despite of the ad hoc benefits...).

Ted gave a quite good explanation of what I meant with "intrusive". In general, I meant that these PMs can become "intrusive" in your own personal (private) life. I have been member for some months in another big forum and I "felt" the intrusive nature of the "interest" of some members to be more interested in your personal life than we were supposed to be in a forum of anonymity.

Parla

P.S.: AD, BC, BP or AV?..(lost in the shadows)...

Ted

Ted

There's no need to reveal anyone's email address if the forum software (as most are) is set up to allow PMs. While I can't imagine anyone finding this intrusive, I guess a function to block specific senders should take care of any problems. I happen to want to communicate privately with one or two people I've 'met' via this forum, and don't feel that's unreasonable.

Paul,

Paul,

You can always direct the other party to a site which does allow private messaging. For instance, the Friends of Radio 3 site (open to anyone) allows private messaging. Send them there, join yourself, and then chat about Jake Bugg to your heart's content.

FOR3 is quite a good forum, actually, though there is very little discussion in the full sense of the word. Most comments are restricted to "I've just ordered x, y and z from Amazon." It's also quite catty in places and periodically erupts in viscious confrontations..........

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